Parenting through any crisis is hard, but COVID, the Presidential Election and the social unrest in this country have amplified the tension and affected every high school student and family around the country. No one understands this better than the parents.
What are some of the emotions student athletes are experiencing as COVID and social unrest are on the rise and the election is forefront in the news? You may be witnessing an increase in sadness, fear, anxiety and worry from your child. You may be experiencing these same emotions yourself.
Find My Team recently polled several student athletes about the COVID crisis as it relates to the recruiting process, and their answers could easily apply to any other crisis. We share some of them below along with some methods to help you and your family cope with the recruiting process during these trying times.
Communication is so important during the recruiting process, but it is much more important during a crisis. Communicating your emotions and feelings, and allowing your children to do the same, keeps together and fosters the support and encouragement needed in tough times.
In polling several high school student athletes about COVID, here are some things they shared with us.
These same worries may be facing your families during this highly stressful election and the racial issues seen across all media channels daily. These topics are a great way to initiate conversations and to learn how your child is feeling. Sometimes, students won’t share feelings unless they are asked about it in a safe place. Usually that safe place is at home with parents they trust.
Just because they are not bringing up their problems does not necessarily mean they are handling everything okay. Seek to make sure.
According to the student athletes polled, when asked who their biggest supporters were during the COVID crisis, the top answers were parents and family. You are the reason they are able to cope with crisis.
Here are some of their comments when asked about their biggest supporters during COVID-19:
Know that your are making a difference. A strong support system is key to student success.
Though it is a little unnerving, try not to panic about the recruiting process. Try to remain hopeful and positive. With the current uptick in cases all over the country, this may be challenging. However, if you can help your daughter take it one day at a time and be open to opportunity, she will eventually find her way.
Most importantly, your daughter is going to find a place to further her education. It may or may not look like what you had in mind when she began the recruiting process, but it will be the one she chooses with the help and support from you.
Grades play a huge role in college opportunities. Whether in the application process or in obtaining financial aid, academics are important.
In a recent conversation with some high school teachers, it was mentioned that some high schools are not permitted to require students to keep their video and audio on during online classes. This means that high school teachers do not know if the students, who are working from home, are listening and participating or if they are sleeping, talking to friends or visiting the refrigerator during class time.
Helping and encouraging your daughter to stay focused on school, even while working online from home, could bring big dividends later in the recruiting process when she is waiting to be accepted into college or waiting to see if she qualifies for academic aid and other scholarships.
There is a lot of uneasiness right now, and mental health issues are increasing in high school students. Taking some breaks and spending some family time is really important for a healthy teen. Even during lockdowns or restricted access to public places, there are things you can do with your child to have some fun.
The list is endless, and, depending on where you live and the weather conditions, some make more sense than others. The point is to continue to have fun as a family, even during these uncertain times.
Let’s face it: we are all social beings. Similar to taking breaks, remaining social is important. In talking to several families about how they are socializing, here are some of their responses.
Being with others during times of crisis is better than being alone. Friends and families are supportive outlets that help us remain happier and calmer during tough times.
Just because there are hiccups with high school sports seasons does not mean that the recruiting process stops. College seasons are in jeopardy, too. College coaches are also in a bind and must continue searching and finding student athletes to fill rosters spots.
Your daughter can still communicate with college coaches. She can still visit college campuses, both virtually and in person. Whether she is able to meet with college coaches on a visit or not depends on the situation (COVID, Dead Period, etc.), but there is a lot to see and a lot of research to do even if college sports seasons are limited.
Communicating with college coaches is one way to find out if and when your daughter can visit campus, watch practices or attend college competitions.
For more help with the recruiting process, reach out to Find My Team and sign up for a free consultation.
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